He Has Finally Asked to Go to Counseling, but Did I Pay the Price?

Question by Missymae: He has finally asked to go to counseling, but did i pay the price?
The last 18 months have been the worst my husband and our family has been threw. In febuary of 2008 my husband lost his best friend right in front of him, due to a quading accident they were in. Then 4 months later his brother ( whom he is incrediably close to) lost his wife after we came home from an extended family vacation. His brother went threw alot of grieving, and drug my hubby with him. our relationship struggled. Then in Sept (3 months later) he broke both of his legs at work. put us so far behind, he returned to work in january only to have our taxes taken from the gov’t due to an error HRBlock made a few yrs ago. Then may 1st he loses his job of 13 yrs 3 days later we had a massive gas leak in our home. cost us over $ 3000.00 to fix. Then in july of this yr our water line broke in the house. It has been ROUGH to say the least. Ive begged him to seek professional help and he wont he says he will deal with his feelings. He is angry mean beligerent to name a few none of which he was until the accident. Finally after being off all summer (he paints houses so work is hard to find) he has a job.

To the point.. we were goofing off today tickling each other and the kids..they got rough, and i yelled for them to quit. Every thing that is wrong in our relationship is my fault according to him. because he is bread winner i dont do anything right. I love him and know what he** the last 18 months have been so i deal with it. But I know i was wrong, but he got cocky and mean for no reason, so i sat up and socked him in the leg, as a ” i got you back” I know it isnt right and i immediatly apollogized because it was hard, but he turned to me today with so much hate in his eyes and hit me, in the face not once but twice, calling me and telling me how much he hates me.

Once i stood up, he dropped to the floor crying telling me he didnt know what happened just then and to please call and get him “help”. He has an intake appointment in the morning with a councler. He has NEVER laid a finger on me before, this was a different Rage then i have ever seen, he said he was calling the police on himself, that he should of never touched me.

I honestly truly told him if he didnt get the help that he needed NOW we were done. No MAN will every abuse me. NEVER. How do i help him, or should I?
We’ve been together for 13 yrs. He went to his mothers, because he didnt want to uproot the children they have school, and i think he now has so much guilt. He is calling every 15 min to say sorry. i have so many mixed raw emotions.

Best answer:

Answer by Andrea P
he’s your husband be with him and love him but he does need help so do you because you hit him in the leg

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