How Do I Open My Dad’s Eyes to Stop Enabling My Mom?

Question by Expecting Baby #1, May 11, 2011: How do I open my dad’s eyes to stop enabling my mom?
I’m an adult, and I’m tired of seeing my mom abuse my dad’s love for her by abusing prescription (RX) drugs. She’s been abusing the RX for 15 years, while I did live at home with her. I’ve since graduated HS, and moved out and moved on. now she’s still up to the same old stuff. I know I need to get it through to my dad before I can ever get help for my mom. their insurance does cover rehab, I verified that with him. I told him flat out she needs rehab. but they aren’t really the “rehab” types. They’re in their 50’s and stubborn as mules. am I fighting a lost cause? Should I just leave them to their dynamics? I don’t want my kids to be exposed to this (when the day comes when I have kids), and I want her to be better by then. I want my mom back, I hate this version of her. But he is enabling her… how do I get him to stop enabling her so I can get her treatment? He won’t go to AL-ANON. Any magical words I can say? Has anyone been through this before? What did you do?

Best answer:

Answer by Gone fishin’
It sounds like he is not interested in fighting this problem. maybe he has tried and has no energy left.

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