Q&A: Wife Is Flipping Out on Me After 14 Years About Old Problems. I Think She Is Suffering From Depression.?

Question by j_mang: wife is flipping out on me after 14 years about old problems. i think she is suffering from depression.?
My wife and I got married 14 years ago. I was working as a marine biologist and wasn’t making much money. I had to have help from my parents at first just to make the rent. I decided to try something different and we moved so I could go to engineering school. I moved her away from her family. We had a child and moved again, another child and moved again, and moved again always trying to get a better job and do better for my family. However, in all of this moving and trying to make bigger bucks and chasing rainbows, I didn’t take into account the emotional damage I was doing by keeping her away from her mother and sisters. I continually looked for a job near them but was unsuccessful. We started having money problems about 5 years ago even though I was making pretty good money. I found out that we didn’t have money because she was spending it all on “substance abuse” – and later alcohol to dull her pain… Her family moved to our town after Katrina. Now she is hating me…
She stopped abusing substances and starting abusing alcohol without my knowledge about a year ago. I didn’t know because I work 14 hours a day 6 days a week trying to do the right thing by my family. She exploded in a drunken rage and told me she wanted a separation and out of this marriage. Even though the root problem of being away from her family is gone, the pain seems to still be fresh. I’ve made her a doctor appt and given her a counselor to call. I think this all stems from untreated post partum depression about 5 years ago. I just don’t know what to do. I can’t even describe how much I love this woman and don’t want to lose her. I feel pretty sure that she has not ever cheated and don’t believe this is the issue. She is just hating me now and won’t talk about anything. She is blaming me for all her problems and is unapproachable. I am trying to give her time to work things out but am so miserable. I quit my second job and took over our finances. Anyone been through
Has anyone ever had a spouse just flip out on you – after the fact? Resentment built up from the past? Could this stem from clinical depression? Has anyone ever been through anything like this and what did you do? All I can do right now is just give her time and space to decide what she wants to do. Our 2 beautiful smart kids are involved, so a divorce is the last option. I need a little advice. No she is not cheating and I never have either. Her anger is overwhelming, though, it is like I cheated on her with 1000 women… I don’t feel like I deserve this. I moved us around the country so that we could do better financially and I did not see the other damage I was doing. She is not very communicative and is very independent – or at least puts up a good front and likes to believe she is independent.

sorry so long. really need someone that has experience with anger/depression chemical imbalance.

I just want my wife back and don’t want to lose my family.
thanks to all – you all helped me…

Best answer:

Answer by abc
depression???? it sounds like she is an addict

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