Q&A: My Fiance Is in an Alcohol Treatment Center. How Do I Know if It Will Work Long Term?

Question by Canada S: My fiance is in an alcohol treatment center. How do I know if it will work long term?
I am nervous about actually tying the knot, now that I am aware he is still having troubles maintaining sobriety (when I first started dating him, he said he had “been in recovery” for several years). He had in actuality been binging alone about once a month. He went into treatment on his own, but has been in a treatment center before and didn’t stay sober. I know that relapse can be a part of the recovery process, but where should I draw the line? I truly love him and want to support his efforts at sobriety, but I am unsure where to draw my boundaries. How long do I wait to get married, and if he relapses, what do I do? If he is willing to get help, should I stay?

Best answer:

Answer by jmclaughlin07
unfortunately you can’t tell. there is no answer. recovery is a life long process! you really have to decide if you can help be his support system. personally i would stay, i would be there but i would make it known any relapses he has, he needs to get help straight away because i will not watch him destroy himself. best wishes

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