How Do I Get Passed This.. (Something I Did)?
Question by New Year- same me.: How do I get passed this.. (something I did)?
Thirteen and half (yes 13 1/2) years ago, in college, my current hubby (boyfriend at the time) split up for about two weeks. During that time, an incident happened. I ended up having sex with a guy.
Here’s the thing. I invited him over (we were friends) and somehow ended up with sleeping pills in my system. The details are fuzzy. I don’t know if I would have voluntarily had sex with him had I not been drugged. So, I classify it as a rape. Charges were never pursued because he was not violent and he used a condom. Plus, my neighbors saw me invite him in.
Boyfriend and I eventually got back together- about two weeks after. I had a slight breakdown. Eventually (2 years later) I told my hubby about it. So- he knows.
The thing is, I’m mostly over it. I’ll never forget. But for some reason, every once in a while I pull it out of the past and can’t seem to let it go. Yesterday, I looked the guy up on myspace to see if he was still as scary as I’ve made him in my mind and where he was- I don’t want to run into him. I have not seen him since it happened.
My question is this: Why can’t I let it completely go? Why can’t I seem to heal completely from this. It was so long ago. I want to let it go. It bothers my husband that I can’t. And he’s told me he doesn’t want to think about it either. What can I do to finally put it in the past and let it go? Please don’t say “counseling”- it’s financially impossible- even on a reduced sliding scale fee. Any other suggestions to put this in the past once and for all?
Best answer:
Answer by doggygirl905
Don’t be afraid to talk about it, get it off your mind. Then it will be gone…I know it may be hard to talk about it, but would you rather talk about for like,10 minutes, or carry that memory for the rest of your life?
-It will be ok
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