How Can I Help Him? My Boyfriend Is a Drug Addict/alcoholic and I Don’t Know What to Do?

Question by Phr3akerz: How can I help him? My boyfriend is a drug addict/alcoholic and I don’t know what to do?
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half and what started as good has fallen as he became addicted to alcohol. He’s almost overcome that but he’s dependent on getting high. He smokes weed, and he’s tried Meth (he swears it was for a week and I believe him). He likes to do pills, whatever he can get his hands on. Dilaudin, Klonopin, Hydros, all of the above, and I don’t know what to do.. He doesn’t see a problem in his choices and he gets mad when I bring up that I don’t even know what to believe anymore because this has caused him to lie to me on more than one occasion. I love him, I don’t want to leave him so don’t say it. It also wouldn’t be good when he is struggling with an addiction. How can I help him? I’m struggling to get him to see why this is wrong, his bio mom drinks and does drugs. His dad is in jail for it. He was adopted due to his parent’s choices so he never got to see the full extent of troubles they went through unlike me. My dad uses pot, he’s used meth and he used to drink..

I want him in NA but he won’t even think of it, he doesn’t want anyone to know of his struggles because it’s “none of their business”. I’m just looking for ways to help him without aggravating the problem at hand, to offer support and know what I’m doing.
No I won’t call the cops on him, I know who his drug buddies are yes. And no I won’t call the cops on them. That damaged my relationship with my father, I won’t let it hurt this. I put my dad in jail as a kid without knowing what I did wrong (yes I know it wasn’t wrong but as a kid and even now I still am conflicted by the fact it was my fault) I was 5, it still effects me to this day.
Maybe I’m in denial, Idk but I’m not leaving him if I believe he can get over this. I know it’s not helpful to leave someone when they are struggling wtih an addiction. My father as I said is an addict, was to more. My mom helped him through the worst of it and he doesn’t drink or tweak anymore due to her. I’m not going to leave Timmy in his time of need if I know I can help him through it.

I’m just asking for some advice on getting him to realize this isn’t good for him, that he should get into rehab or group meetings. I’m willing to go through everythign with him, go with him to meetings too. I just don’t know how to convince him of this.

Best answer:

Answer by bronzebabekentucky
YOU can’t do anything. Unless he WANTS to stop, he won’t.
Do you REALLY want to live your life with someone who is an addict?? I don’t think it would be such a good life.

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