I’m Disgusted by My Mom?

Question by Astafia: I’m disgusted by my mom?
I’m 18 and recently got a life so I’ve been more independent from my mom. She also recently got a life. This life seems to be rather childish though. Last night, she said she was going out “for a couple hours”, which ended up with her passed out drunk on her friend’s couch (on a work night, no less). I started to worry around 1 am and that turned into about 20 frantic phone calls with no answer. I thought she was dead, I couldn’t sleep. I didn’t hear from her until 5 am when she apparently woke up. I had to get up at that point so I’m running on no sleep now.

My dad left her in 2009 and I realize she is trying to make up for 20 years in an awful, unfulfilled, suffocating relationship. I was just ignoring this little mid-life crisis and letting her go on her way to do whatever she needed to cope, because it’s not really my business and it’s not like she’ll listen to me. It started with going out every couple of weeks…then once a week…then multiple times a week. She isn’t supposed to drink because she had gastric bypass surgery, yet she frequently comes home drunk, to the point where she’s vomiting. I would like to just roll my eyes and shrug my shoulders, but it’sbeginning to affect me now, and it’s definitely affecting my sibling. I have to lie for her so they don’t get upset, which irritates me and seems wrong. I’m exhausted from not sleeping last night since I was so worried and then having to go to classes all day, I could barely concentrate.

She seems like she’s having fun so I don’t know if “helping” her is an issue. I feel like she just wants to make up for lost time and is acting like a teenager because of that, which is understandable, but she seems to be forgetting that she also has young children. I stay out of her business for the most part, but coming home vomiting and disappearing for a whole night ON A WORK NIGHT…I can’t ignore that really. It becomes my business even though I don’t want it to be. I just want to stay out of it really and deal with my own life, but I am absolutely disgusted with her immature behavior and have no idea what to do. Am I harsh for being disgusted and not really caring that much what she does besides how it affects my siblings and I? Help?
I still live at home, I just meant that I’m not AS dependent as we used to be. which was a freakish amount. If I didn’t live at home I wouldn’t be involved at all and thus would not care, unless my siblings got me involved of course.

Best answer:

Answer by Ida
You are a PERVERT!

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