Is My Friend a Lesbian? Could She Turn Out to Be One Later?
Question by speed: is my friend a lesbian? could she turn out to be one later?
ok so there is this close friend of mine… 22 yrs old… she’s never dated a guy. ok, i can make my peace with that, but can u believe it she has never even had a crush on any1! not even a teeny weeny crush, she says! its not like she’s d conservative type… she’s lotsa fun, very out going n almost always ready to party. she’s a real tom boy, never wears anything girly. she equally comfortable wid both boys n girls.
n here it comes- she gets too close to some gals.. emotionally. she says she even dreams abt them.. once, in her previous school, she wrote a sort of a “love poem” for one of her friends that she adored. nothing sexual in it, but it was not d normal kind of girl- girl friendship. n she never had a kind word for her friend’s boy friend, she disliked him for no reason. d same things happening now wid another girl. dreams of her, simply adores her… n hates her BF! n then wen some guys guys ask her out, she doent even so much as consider it even for a sec. refuses outright! she claims its cos she’s not into dating n stuff..
so is she a lesbian? or does she not know of it.. could she turn out to be one? how can v convince her to confide in us? v’ve gently approached her abt this many times but she flatly denies, n even gets irritated sometimes
it wouldnt matter if she is… she’s a very close friend of mine, n will always be… i wanna be sure she’s fine, i wanna make life easier for her if she’s somewhere on the line b/w straight n lesbian, cos may be she doesnt know abt it herself
Best answer:
Answer by Aimee B
What does it matter to you? Would you stop being her friend is she were a lesbian?
EDIT: Ok, good. It doesn’t matter if she’s a lesbian or straight or whatever. Then let me tell you honestly that no one but her can determine what her orientation is. You “helping” isn’t helping. If she’s not sure of her sexuality then all you’re doing by trying to influence her is making it more difficult for her to figure things out.
If you want to be a true friend to her, don’t bring it up. Don’t mention how accepting you are or how you hope she’s straight or whatever. Just be a friend. Its not alcoholism, its not something you can have an intervention for, it just is what it is.
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Just some thoughts that should have kept to myself. yet i seem to have a big mouth!!!