Wife’s Addiction Driving Me Craze!!?

Question by irishfirefighter762: Wife’s Addiction Driving me craze!!?
My wife has been struggling with an addiction to sleeping pills. I have worked very hard to try to get her the help she need but it dose not seam she wants to get better. With addiction comes the lying and deception, and 3 weeks ago was no different. Her recovery program has been to meat with a therapist once a week she has been meeting with the same person since October. She had had several small relapse since with the last in the beginning of January. She has had several thing that she promised me she would do help build our relationship back up one of witch was to finish her resume witch she did but it was all copied off the net. This broke my heart I confronted her she lied about it then fussed up. I told her could not go on living lie this and that I don’t wont to be married to her any more she told me she would do anything to stay together. I told her I wont her to go to rehab to get fixed up we went to meet with her therapist and she did not think that would take my wife in a rehab program because she was not currently using. I suggested that she started an intensive out patient. The therapists recommend she start going to AA MY deal was 90 meeting in 90 days. My wife has been going for three weeks now for the first two weeks she has gone to three meeting a week and last week she has only made two. We agreed that she would stop drinking during that 90 day she has now decided that it she only need to do this for 90 day. I have tried to be supportive and have empowered her to make her own decision whether they are right or wrong. I am totally frustrated with her because she is not following any program. She thinks she is dong great witch she is on not taking drugs but there is a whole lot more to life that just that. I am ready to just walk away from it all I don’t feel she is committed to getting better and that I am just spinning my wheels, I love her very much but I just don’t think I can stay with someone who doesn’t wont to get better. Have you been in situation like this? Am I total in the wrong? How importer is the 90-90 in AA? Have you ever total disagreed with you someone’s therapist what can I do to have more input in to her recovery? How do I make my wife wont to get better? When do you throw the towel in?

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Answer by nevadablondie2008
Maybe you can scare into quitting. I can send her a picture of my mother who abused pain pills and other prescription drugs. She is 65 and the Doctors told her she has the body of a 90 year old woman. Everyone thinks she is my dads mom and my dad looks like crap.

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