Treating Anxiety/depression and Drug Addiction?
Question by xjewel903x: Treating Anxiety/depression and drug addiction?
My fiancé is having multiple problems at once and Im not sure where to start getting him help. He has a drug problem & it started about 3 yrs ago. When asked why he uses he basically says it because he has bad anxiety and doesnt know how to deal with it (this wasnt figured out until after he was using for awhile & became addicted). He wants to stop using and stop feeling so crappy but we are not sure where to strat. He uses because of his anxiety but the drugs are just making the anxiety worse. We tried going to his primary doctor & he basically said that he doesnt treat that, go see a therapist. We tried outpatient theraphy but he hated it and said it made him feel worse. Our latest step is to go see a theraphist ( appt. on monday). My question is are these the right steps or is there something else that we should be doing? Im at my wits end with it all the drugs but I do not want to lose him. I love him very much and want us to be happy like I know we were and can be.
I’ve been with him 10yrs and we have a child together. I’m never going to give up on him, even if we do need to split. I love and care for him and his safety too much. I know there is a long and hard road ahead and I’m willing to deal with that because I know that deep down what a good man/father he is. That loving/caring person comes out every once and a while. He just has a problem that we don’t know how to fix or where to even start. Are we going in the right direction? Or should we be doing something else?
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Answer by XOUT
OK, now what you have described is a very complex situation and needs hands-on evaluation by a therapist.
Before I go any further I want to tell you that I do not think you should marry this person unless he can get clean and stay clean for a very long time.
Your fiance has what is called in addiction medicine a “dual diagnosis”. Both issues must be addressed.
Recovery from addiction is not easy, involves a very high rate of relapse and/or death. It involves lifelong recovery activity including 12 step programs and complete abstinence from any addicting drug or alcohol.
Marry this guy, and you are going to live in the utter hell of codependency for the duration of your marriage.
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