Marriage Help…..what Is Going On?

Question by Jen: marriage help…..what is going on?
Whenever my husband and I fight/argue he always gets away from what we are arguing about to the following insults. He ALWAYS tells me I am not contributing to our family and doing what I am suppose to. I am a part time student and a stay at home mom ( which it was his idea for me to go to school). However, he always says I am not working therefore I am not doing my job? He ALWAYS talks about divorce and I told him seriously if that is how he feels we should talk about that, but then later he says ” no no no, that is not what I want”, but does he realize it hurts when he talks about it? He always belittles me and my parents because he doesn’t like them. There is alcoholism is my family and we were quite dysfunctional growing up. I don’t like certain things about his family either, but I don’t belittle him. My husband ALWAYS uses bad language and calls me names in front of our daughter even though I beg him not to as it isn’t fair to her. It doesn’t matter what I say or do, this fighting behavior continues and continues regardless of apologies. I know tomorrow if I ask him how he is feeling about out fight he he will say, ” I am over it” and that he doesn’t want to talk about it. He will leave it at that. However, I am just torn from the inside out over this because it keeps reacurring and it is hurtful. I feel we fight/argue alot because we have bad communication and because he never really wants to listen to how I feel. What is going on? Can anyone relate?

Best answer:

Answer by Seriously now
Seek therapy or counseling.

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