New BF Has a Hard Time Getting an Erection?

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Been dating this guy in his early 40s for about 2 months. It seems to take him forever to get an erection, sometimes not at all and then tends to lose it before he comes. I never had this “problem” with anyone else but can’t help think maybe its me. For you guys out there what could be the problem?

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Answer by Maine Boy (formerly NYBoy)
tough one..he may just not be that into you physically (i’ve had that problem before where i dated one girl and couldnt get aroused but the very next girl we couldnt keep our hands off eachother)…it may be he’s getting older…whatever you do, dont mention the “i never had this problem with anyone before” line

Answer by bigwheels
It could be a number of things ranging from the physiological to the psychological.

Lack of sleep and fatigue, diet issues, alcohol and tobacco consumption, cardiovascular issues, depression, stress, lack of interest in the partner (don’t take this one to heart, and it is actually somewhat unlikely that this would be the core reason), performance anxiety issues (for this reason it is important that you don’t tell him you’ve never been with someone with the same issue. Society makes virility very important to a man’s self image, often overly so, so commenting negatively on his inability to maintain an erection will only risk making it worse.) etc.

Many women seem to believe that a man can control his erection as if there was a tangible on/off button like a light switch. Hence they can get very upset, even offended, when a man fails to get an erection. I actually have contempt for such women. The best thing to do would be to show understanding, in fact tell him that it doesn’t really matter to you. If there’s any hint of a psychological cause, you’re understanding might reduce his strenuous efforts to perform, thus decreasing any anxiety, and making the chances better.

the alcohol problem
mouthwash and CANCER.