Got Boyfriend Into Smoking..should I Feel Guilty?
Question by clarabelle: Got boyfriend into smoking..should i feel guilty?
I started smoking weed about 3 times a week around a year ago. I was always against the stuff until i started hanging around one of my old roommates that smokes it 24/7. She pressured me into trying it and after about 5 bong sessions, I was in loveee. My boyfriend of seven years has always been VERY against drugs and alcohol because of his parent’s alcoholism. Whenever I would smoke around him, he would get super annoyed with me and ignore me for the rest of the night. Whenever I told him that he should just chill out & join me, he would get even angrier and say that he never, ever wanted to stoop down to that level…About a month ago, he changed…drastically. He went from bashing pot to wanting to smoke it with me all of the time. We just went to warped tour with a group of people. We were high for literally 4 days straight.
I have to say, me and my boyfriend get along 1000x better when we’re high. instead of us fighting over my “weed addiction,” we’re giggling about the most random stuff, making out, and eating munchie food until we fall asleep. Even though it seems like i would be happy that he’s taken up smoking, I feel kind of guilty for being the one to change him. He used to be SO against it and now, just because of me, he loves it even more than i ever have. I thought that he was happy about his new hobby, but today he told me that he feels as though he’s betraying himself and he’s ashamed of what he’s been doing. He said that he wishes that there was a way to take it back, but these isn’t. When i told him how bad I felt and casually brought up throwing away our stash, he kind of freaked out and told me that I couldn’t….
I never wanted him to be as bad off as me. I just wanted him to be okay with me smoking and be able to do it on occasion without freaking out. Even though i know that weed isn’t harmful, the fact that i have changed him so much kind of kills me. I feel like i’m forcing him to go against what he believes in.
I don’t really know where to go from here. HELP.
I never ever “pressured” him- i would just ask him every once in a while if he wanted to join me and he said no…that was that. I only feel guilty for being a bad influence.
Best answer:
Answer by Danty
If you got him into smoking then you should feel a bit guilty. It’s hard to tell from what you are saying as I know a lot of guys that just want to impress their girlfriend but it becomes an addiction.
Weed is bad for you. It might not harm you but it is not good for you or your relationship.
If you think he has changed because of the weed then it’s a clear sign that you should show him that you care about him and get him some help.
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