How to Deal With My Mother’s Behavior?
Question by John: How to deal with my mother’s behavior?
My mother has a very interesting personality. She has serious trust issues and always thinks everybody is out to trick her and naturally likes to question the truth. But on the outside, for the most part, she is happy and in a good mood, yet once in a while, she randomly will snap into explosive behavior.
For instance, the other day, her friend did not call to wish her a happy birthday. This led to her coming into my room and randomly complaining/yelling at me about completely other things, such as “where do you go on the weekends? why do you text so much? it’s not normal! why do you work so much? are you a workaholic? why don’t you get enough sleep? you’re doing drugs, aren’t you? you have a bunch of secrets that you’re not telling your mother, and I will find out and never forgive you!” The interesting thing is, all those questions are asked rhetorically (as in, no matter what response I give to her for each, she discards them and might even bring up other issues, in an effort to bombard me as much as possible). When my patience breaks and I realize I’m talking to a brick wall, I try to walk away from the room, yet she will go as far as saying “Don’t leave, your mother is talking to you.” and will block the door, and mention something like “What are you going to do, forcefully move me away? I will gladly call the police and report it as abuse!”
For the record, I am a good kid. I’m 21, I’ve never done drugs, I am a hard-worker, good student, and have never done anything abusive or police-worthy. This is why I get very depressed and angry on the inside. I realize how bizarre and out-of-touch her perspective becomes. Today, we are on good terms again as if no argument had ever taken place (unhealthy cycle, I know). This cycle happens sometimes between her and my grandparents and sibling as well.
What could be her condition? How can I help? What should I do to prevent this deeply disturbing experience? Does she need to fix herself, or do I also need to learn to become more immune to it? Any advice will be greatly life-shaping and highly appreciated. Thanks…
Best answer:
Answer by Liliana
I always think everybody is out to trick me because tricking others is all I think about all day. I just pretend now to be in a good mood with you because you’re a sucker that feeds me and takes me shopping, but wait until I get rights to this house. This house will be mine very soon, half of it, we’ll see how you react.
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