Im So Confused……?
Question by Annonymous: im so confused……?
is really that bad to keep stuff to yourself. like, “bottling” stuff up. i mean, does it really do any damage?
i guess i need to know because im 19 years old, and i have alot of stuff that iv held inside the whole 19 years iv been alive. i know alot of people are gonna say “talk to someone, talk to a therapist” but, i cant afford a therapist, and i dont really have anyone that i can talk to about the kind of problems i have.
im not the kind of person that just unloads all my problems onto someone else, and seeks sympathy. when im around friends and family, i give my fake smiles and show my happy face because i dont want to get into it. you know? like, i dont want to talk about it because i feel like il never forget about it if i keep bringing it up. im just like “if iv held it in this long, i can hold in until i die”
but the older i get the more i notice that i dont really feel any kind of emotion anymore. i dont mean to sound emo, cuz im not like that at all, but i just feel so numb. and the kind of family im from, nobody talks about their “feelings” and crap like that. im kinda getting scared because my life is based around getting drunk, and popping random pills. i dont want to be this way, but its almost like, the only time i ever feel anything, is when im “under the influence”
anyways, iv gone into an emo rant.
i know theres not much you can do behind a computer screen, and like i said, i know your first response would be “talk to someone, go to a therapist, get help”.. but you have to understand my situation. my basic question is … will it really do any noticable damage if you dont talk about your problems, and just keep them to yourself?
Best answer:
Answer by Tasha
YES. The problem today is that physical problems receive more attention than mental health problems. Anything bottled up will damage you. You are only 19 – how confusing everything must seem! It’s not a good age I don’t think. My family don’t talk about feelings at all and if I cried in front of them, they just ignored me – about anything. Can u talk to friends? I know this is corny but ring Lifeline – I have – and they have trained counsellors there. They don’t just tell you what u should hear – they really listen. That’s a big problem today – no-one really listens to their friends and tries to help. they’re all stuck in front of computer screens and watching crappy TV instead of TALKING. And taking all the drugs and piss seems glamorous on TV but I’ll tell you where it will lead you eventually – to the morgue, and you will also have a shitty life with horrendous health problems, heaps MORE stuff to deal with. I write down heaps of stuff just to get it out and I always feel better. But if you feel really down RING SOMEONE NOW. We’re told in our society it’s bad to let feelings show, and Aussie men don’t show any feelings for Gods sake. What is wrong with the world today? If you are honest with people about how you feel, they will help you. Believe me people do care, though the evidence so far seems contrary.
Answer by SevasTra
It really does. It can lead to self injury and stuff like that.