Is Pleasure Pleasure?
Question by Little big brains: Is pleasure pleasure?
Every time I have sex with someone I feel like a piece of me is taken from me that I can’t retrieve, a big piece, like a sacred piece. Why?
I bring this up because my counselor said the most wrong of all wrong assumptions about me, he said, that “I”, which is “me”, “I” don’t feel worthy of being loved. Honestly, his assumption did not bother me, in fact, it was quite hilarious, it’s very amusing for people to try and get me to express myself and assume the worst of me when they don’t even know any of my deep down beliefs. I also think this is his slick maneuver in getting me to open up. Smart I guess.
Back to my point from the original question, it’s so weird, when I have sex with someone I want to run away, I’ve always sort of felt this way. Could it be a combination of emotional attachment, feeling violated (used) without attachment, passed horrific relationships, could it be that I possibly love myself more then everyone thinks, what if something happen to me as a child that I can’t remember, is there room for self respect somewhere in here in this life?
It almost feels as if a hand from my stomach reaches up squeezes my vocal cords so tight that I can’t speak filling me with anger. A choking sensation, why?
I need to figure this out, I feel stuck.
Best answer:
Answer by Tortuga Tom
Looks like you found out the hard way that “counselors” are usually know-nothing @sshats. Probably psych majors who couldn’t find jobs as psychologists. Also looks like you didn’t open up. But that’s your problem, not his. Question is, what makes you think he was wrong?
You got issues, yeah…who doesn’t? Maybe something DID happen to you that you can’t recall. One of these days, something might trigger your recollection of it. Like that one episode of “Mash”, when Hawkeye nutted up by an odor. Blew his mind when Sigmund drug it out of him. Maybe something needs to drag this thing out of you.
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