Please, My Fiance Has Been Hospitilized, I Know This Is Long, but Please Help Me, Give Me Your Opinion?
Question by hunsbunstonsoffun: Please, my fiance has been hospitilized, I know this is long, but please help me, give me your opinion?
On friday March 20th it was his birthday and he went out with his friends and drank and partied, the next morning he told me he felt very sick. We thought it was just a hangover, but no matter what he ate or anything it didn’t make him feel better and to me he seemed a bit upset, but we had our friends with us so couldn’t talk.
He does smoke marijuana and drink, but does no other drugs. After he was sick all day, he tried to smoke to make his tummy feel better & it just made him feel worse. After everyone had left he started freaking out and he told me, he’d been feeling paranoid all day that his friend were conspiring against him. I know that medically this would be called delusions.
He’s a normal happy person usually, very in control of things, but he lost it. He was crying and I stayed with him and loved him. It lasted like this until tuesday. It was actually very healing, he hasn’t had a job in over a year, and told me how sorry he was. We’ve been dating almost 3 years and he was panicked he could loose me and then realized how much he loved me and wants to spend his life with me. He really turned over a new leaf, on tuesday, everything was starting to look better.
He finally was able to open up and while I was in class he talked to my mom and told her everything that had happened. He started feeling way better and wanted to call his family and friends to tell them all these things. He wasn’t completely better yet, so I suppose he shouldn’t have. So he called his mom and was telling her and she sounded fine until he mention the fact that he decided to spend his life with me. I’m 20 and he’s 22, we just want a long engagement, we want to wait til we get our lives together to finally tie the knot, it was just an engagement. But I heard her freak and ask him where he was and told him she was coming RIGHT over.
Once she got there, she took him aside and I don’t know what they were talking about, all I know is he was fine and happy until he talked to his mom. Once they were over, she came and told me she thought he needed medical help, God I thought “ok yea we’ll go to the doctor in the morning and get tests, find a therapist…” But god I had no idea, I had no idea. Next thing I know she says we have to go to the E.R. RIGHT now. She’s a really intimidating woman, I had just wanted to get him help for a while I guess, so I didn’t think it through. I didn’t…
We get there and she is constantly trying to take him away from me and just take care of him herself. But he wanted me, and only me to comfort him. I could see how upset that made his mom, I could see it every time he took his hand out of hers and reached for mine. He hates getting his blood drawn and when they went to stick that in him he freaked and tightened up, he was scared, I could see he was just scared, this is NOT the way the treatment should have gone.
So we got the tests and then we waited until 2am 4 hours longer than we were told we’d have to wait for the psych to get here and give an evaluation. He was asleep when she got there and barely waking up she stuck her head in the room “Can you talk?” my boy said he was just waking up, she immediately left and I heard her outside saying “well that was easy, we’ll call the ambulance to take him to another hospital to stay the night.” I tried to wake him up to talk to them, but it didn’t matter they had made there decision.
So he has a 72 hour hold right now at this behavioral health place and every time I talk to him he tells me how scared he is. They gave him a bad drug that made him freak and when they tried to give him drugs the day after he refused and they held him down and tranquilized him. I hope he gets out of this hold today, but can anybody tell me what happens in this places and what he might have????
He smokes almost everyday and has for like a year + he drank every night for about 9 days straight before this happened, I researched psychosis and found that there is also substance-induced psychosis that he might have, but what else could he have?
And HOW can I get him out of there? I know they can only keep him if they think he’s a danger to himself and others… he’s not and he told them in the ER he wasn’t suicidal…
What can I DO!?!?!
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