Q&A: How to Approach My Parents About This Uncle I Am Curious About?

Question by Becca: How to approach my parents about this uncle i am curious about?
I have uncle named Trevor. Apparently he left home at 16, and there were some drug and alcohol problems involved somewhere in there…

Apparently he did something horrible to my late grandpa, and has been in jail since (17 years. i have no idea what prison, how long a sentence etc.)

All of these little “facts” i’ve collected off of pure eavesdropping. When I did try asking my parents about him, they just ushered me away with a “be quiet, go to your room”

My brother (he’s 24), is 9 years older than me told me that when he was younger, before this uncle was in jail, my parents told him that if a man who claimed to be his uncle EVER approached him– that he was to run to a safe place and call the police. My brother has been known to lie… but i kind of instinctively believe him on this one.

I posted this question last night,. but only got answers suggesting i track down other relatives and ask them… but I’d feel uncomfortable talking to any of them, considering my parents do not want me talking to them, so I’d have to hide it from them and I haven’t talked to them in 8 years,so what’s the chance they will cooperate and tell me everything?

The reason I am posting this in “psychology” and not “family” is because I want tips on how I can approach my parents about this and get solid facts to end this secrecy…what would be the best method? Just asking them hasn’t worked too well.
sorry, for some reason this question posted twice…

Best answer:

Answer by Veritas
I agree with the others who said talk to other relatives………

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