Q&A: What Are the Common Procedures at Mental Hospitals, How Can You Get Out of Them? This Is Long, but PLEASE Help?

Question by hunsbunstonsoffun: What are the common procedures at mental hospitals, how can you get out of them? This is long, but PLEASE help?
March 20th was my fiance’s birthday the next day he started having intense paranoia delusions. We weren’t engaged at this point, for 4 days I stayed with him and loved him as he thought for some reason that he was going to loose me. Whatever caused that feeling, I don’t know, but it made him realize he didn’t deserve me. He’d been unemployed for over a year, living with me, and just hanging out playing video games and smoking pot all day. I know you must think I was crazy for staying with him, I know, I should have broken up with him, but I KNEW, I don’t know how or why, but I just knew that someday he’d realize all of what I just listed. And that I was his everything and there was no other girl he wanted but me. It was a very emotional and trying 4 days. He NEVER cries, but he cried and cried and cried. He’d been holding inside all his failures and not processing them. I’ve held my feelings inside and eventually the bottle bursts open and floods over and that is what was happening to him.

By tuesday he was starting to come back to normal, and so was his memory and the paranoia was dying down. He called his oldest sister to tell her the news and that he’d decided he wanted to marry me because I understand him better than anyone else and was the only thing that got him through that weekend. Well she flipped and started bombarding him with questions, at this time questions were stressful still and he needed to just talk. His mom calls in the middle of this and frazzled he says “well I dropped out of school kind of for her and she just failed a class for me so…” it was a bad description of obviously why he wants to marry me. His mom is a nurse practitioner and a know-it-all bitch. Just to be straight forward, so she freaks and asks how to get to where he is.

She comes over and talks to him for an hour alone in a corner and when I saw him again, he was SO much more emotional than he’d been earlier. She asks me if I agree that he needs help? I’m thinking “ya, a doctor and some blood tests in the morning and we need to find a good therapist.” But no, she springs the ER on me! He didn’t want to go, if it wasn’t for me, he’d have NEVER gotten in that car. I didn’t know, I should have never… and she didn’t even give us a chance to explain that we weren’t gonna run off to Vegas or anything, this was gonna be a LONG engagement, I need to graduate college first and I’ve only got a year left….

We got there and already upset he freaks out more, yes in the ER I agree, he WAS mental. He hates getting his blood drawn normally! So it was blood tests and then a psych evaluation. The blood tests came back with nothing, but alcohol and marijuana. They say it’ll be an hour til the psych gets here. We waited to and they gave him a drug to calm him down, it was midnight, we were tired since we hadn’t slept all weekend. So we passed out. At 2am I hear voices outside his hospital room and it was his mom talking to the psych. She says she’s gonna see if he wants to talk she poked her head in the room and asked him and duh he said “I’m just waking up…” She didn’t give him a chance turned to his mom and said “well that was easy, I’ll have them call an ambulance to transfer him to another hospital.”

I tried to get him up and he tried to talk to her, but it was already too late. We waited another 2 hrs for the ambulance, and he asked me if he could move the ring he got me a few Christmases ago onto my left finger, of course I said yes I mean, we’ve been dating almost 3 years and live together. He did it in front of his mom and two sisters and I could just feel the rages flooding off of them. When the wheeled him out he was sobbing the whole way.

Now he’s been in this mental hospital for 6 days and they still won’t let him out! They are giving him respideral and 2 other drugs that he says make him worse every time he takes them! What are the procedures for mental hospitals? He’s not suicidal or homicidal they just feel he can’t take care of himself and he’s 22.

When he refused to take his meds one time they held him down and tranquilized him.

There is one hour of visiting time per day & he has 3 sisters 1 bro, and a mom and a dad that want to see him every time. Only 2 people every 20 mins can go up. I can see him too, but I’m always with a family member, and they’ve been so cold to me.

HOW can he get out of there?!?! TELL me please! Tell me what I can do or he can do to get himself out of there! please I’m begging you! He keeps asking them why he’s there and they say they think he has psychosis, and that he can’t leave until he starts making it to the cafeteria on time (which he’s been doin for 2 days now), participating in group (also been doing for 2 days), taking his meds (been doing for 4 days), and having coherent conversations with them, I don’t know if he has those, but he has with me.

Last night I talked to him and he was normal because the drugs were wearing off. He asked me to tell him not to

Best answer:

Answer by gazeygoo
This whole thing doesn’t sound right. Visiting is way off for a mental setting, risperdal doesn’t “wear off” etc. Sounds like you’re both need to be there. Why don’t you try again with more fact than fiction.

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