Q&A: Where Do You Go When You Love a Drug Addict and You Wanna Get Healthy?

Question by Danielle: where do you go when you love a drug addict and you wanna get healthy?
My son (who thank God willingly went into rehab for a couple of weeks and is coming home on Monday) is just getting clean and is about to come home and i want to make sure that he is coming home to the most supportive and healthy envrioment. As an addict in recovery for over 8 yrs myself i know that an addict always ends up poisining there enviorment and the people around them end up becoming as sick as they are. As a parent it has been especially hard to not become an enabeler to my childs addiction, to not listen to the overwhelming desire within me that screams out for me to protect him and save him from the consequences of his poor choices and to follow my motherly instinct that drives me to want to fix everything and save him from every ounce of pain he might ever feel but thats not reality and it’s not the way to help him and while my mind knows that my heart doesnt. It is incredibly painful to stand back and just watch him go through so much unnecissary pain. So i while i go to therapy, he’ll start therapy now and we’ll also start family therapy i still felt like i needed something like an alanon to help me to have daily support to not enable and to get through the daily pain of possible relapse and the mainpulation of an addict, especially when that addict is your teenage son that knows his mother loves him desperatly and who has often used that love as a weapon against me. The problem with the idea of Alanon was that when i looked it up online it was strictly about drinkig. Now i know for me personally when i went to AA meetings i just substituted the words drinking for the word “drugging” in my mind because AA helped me stay clean but i emailed Alanon and they said they would not allow someone in there group that wasn’t dealing with an alcholic that they felt that might “stir up issues for other memebers” What the heck does that mean??? Also i was hoping they might have chat rooms or someting because i cant get to meetings due to being a single mom, having another child who is severly autistic and transportation issues. Anyone out there have any ideas or info?

Best answer:

Answer by you’re lucky I’m nice
Narcotics Anonymous.

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